Euphemism,
in the other cases in Deuteronomy that I cited,
To recap, you quoted the following verses:
Deu 22:23,24
"In case there happened to be a virgin girl engaged to a man, and a man actually found her in the city and lay down with her, YOU must also bring them both out to the gate of that city and pelt them with stones, and they must die, the girl for the reason that she did not scream in the city, and the man for the reason that he humiliated the wife of his fellowman. So you must clear away what is evil from your midst.
Deu 22:28,29
"In case a man finds a girl, a virgin who has not been engaged, and he actually seizes her and lies down with her, and they have been found out, the man who lay down with her must also give the girl?s father fifty silver shekels, and she will become his wife due to the fact that he humiliated her. He will not be allowed to divorce her all his days.
You then stated:
where the context makes clear that sex is being referred to, the KJV still translates the word as 'humbled'; so I wouldn't take their translation as a strong indicator.
As you say, in both instances the context clearly indicates that the 'humiliation' referred to is sex (even if not necessarily rape). The first verse (referring to adultery) specifically says that the man "lay down with her." The second verse (possibly fornication or rape) again very specifically says the man "lies down with her."
Whereas no such similar specific wording appears in Deuteronomy 21:14:
And it must occur that if you have found no delight in her, you must then send her away, agreeably to her own soul; but you must by no means sell her for money. You must not deal tyrannically with her after you have humiliated her.
Interestingly, in Deuteronomy 22:23, 24, the transliteration is "abased" but with a Strong's Concordance number of 6030 (also 'anah) which is defined as:
give account, ... (cause to, give) answer, ... cry, hear, Leannoth, lift up, say, X scholar, (give a) shout, sing (together by course), speak, testify, utter, (bear) witness.
I'm no scholar, so I'm probably missing something significant here. But, for the life of me, I can't see any connection between the definition and it's use in the verse.
Verses 28 and 29 again use 6031.
If I get a chance to look up any scholarship on this verse, I'll post it here.
Thanks, that would be interesting.